For the box, I couldn't find anything at all for a burial cover for such a small coffin. I made a lace like package out of the box. White seemed to be the best choice for color symbolically obviously. We brought flowers and a St. Michael card and Miraculous medal to place on top of the little cedar casket.
But back to the naming ceremony, you can use a priest, or a lay person can do it. We asked our priest because we needed it, it wasn't something we were up to for ourselves. I had a plaque made with both babies names on it. We named Catherine at the time we miscarried but I didn't have any knowledge of the Naming and Commendation Ceremony. I had called the funeral director and spoke to him about burial at that time, but since I couldn't find anything to bury I wasn't able to follow through. Fr. Mainzer did the ceremony for both babies this time though. It gave us closure for Catherine's miscarriage.
#7 Call your local Catholic cemetery and see what they do for miscarried babies. Almost all of them have a place for free burial. Ours let us put Michael in the blessed ground over my grandma.
#8 No baby is too small to bury. We are made in His image and likeness, from the moment or conception we have a soul and are given a guardian angel. We are real humans at the moment of conception, don't feel like a drama queen for emotions you are holding. And seek support where you are comfortable.
We don't know our children we miscarry like we know our live earthly children we have right now in front of us. Only a mom knows the attachment and suffering that comes from just merely knowing you are pregnant. It's not something we can translate to others. We ache to hold our babies. I had to wait patiently for 3 weeks.
There are many organizations out there who help families of miscarried babies by making the little knitted/crocheted blanket for holding and burial. One in particular is next to my daughters Irish dance studio, Bridget's Cradles. They are absolutely wonderful.
For those who have had abortions and are now regretting them and wondering what you can do to move forward and get closure and healing. There are several pro-life groups who are happy to help and support you moving forward. Sometimes it takes years for these conversions of hearts to happen, that's okay. The reality of it being a real human being inside of you is often blocked and disguised by all outside 'garbage' we hear from trusted doctors and friends or maybe close family members, social media or media in general, maybe even the father of the baby. Please seek healing! Don't live with it anymore! I really believe all sorts of mental health issues and depression stem from this and go untreated and unmentioned. Seeking forgiveness and closure is the only way.
I hope I have been a good witness to life for you, and I hope that you can find ways to help yourself through your miscarriage. Probably eventually we all know someone who has miscarried or go through one, and maybe this information can be used to help streamline phone calls and help eliminate anxiety. I hope you have a great summer!